Courageous, steadfast, and hopeful…these are but a few adjectives that immediately come to mind when describing my mother, Mary Lou Subia as she ventured out of West Texas 5 plus decades ago. The youngest daughter of Sebastian and Maria Juarez. A native of Alpine, Texas. Sister to Esperanza, Chuy, & Jose. She gifted to this world Manuel Jr, Armando, Arturo, Melba Ann, Jimmy Lee, Armida, Adrian, and Adam. Sixteen grandchildren and 16 great-grandchildren were added to the brood to her beaming heart. We also remember lovingly the loss of Armida in 2008, and our father in early 2019.
This young mother along with her doting husband, Manuel Subia, gathered up the kids one cool fall day in 1964 and headed out west for a new life. That 1400 mile journey didn’t have its final stop until they reached the Valley of Your Heart’s Delight, San Jose, CA.This aspiring young couple and their 8 children planted firm roots in this rich valley full of cherry, peach, and plum orchards.
Caring, resourceful, and patient…Mom was all of this and much more. I could come to Mom to chat or ask her opinion, and she never said I don’t have time or come back later. Each one of my siblings could tell you that Mom was their best friend including I.
When Mom wasn’t cleaning house, shopping, or at the beauty salon on a Saturday afternoon, she was inside the kitchen making one of her special meals. I am of the generation that got to sit down with all the family and have Sunday dinner. Mom expected us to be home on Sunday to break bread with her and dad. Those Sunday gatherings can never be replicated. As we got older, the home cooked Sunday dinners faded away, but Mom would still look forward to a dinner out with any one of us.
Ask each one of my siblings who their greatest fan was, and they will tell you it was mom. All my siblings but I were avid athletes. Mom made it a point to support each one of them as best as she could whether it be at basketball, football, soccer, or baseball games. Our mom was the most loyal soccer mom that you’d ever want to know.
My hero and confidant. Although I lived out of town, we spoke daily for the two plus decades since I have been gone from home. If I could do it all over again, I would change not a thing. The mother that never said no, and who always loved you with all her heart.
We musn’t say goodbye or never again, but say until we meet again in the baby blue sky of our dreams.
We will always miss you, Mom
We love you.